Unveiling Life’s Mysteries: Embracing the Journey, Despite the Uncertainties
Don’t let the fear of negative outcomes keep you from experiencing the best moments of your life.
Life has a way of ensuring the ground slips beneath your feet. With a lot of effort, you did manage to build a strong enough ground by collecting your emotions, disciplining your mind with a routine and accepting circumstances as they are. And for a moment, everything seemed stable. But then again, the ground crumbled and you wonder how you will find that stability again.
Good things come when you step out of your comfort zone. But sometimes, life doesn’t give you the time to set into that zone. It just throws you and you must swim, or else you will sink. It’s just life’s way of teaching you that you must adapt to anything that comes your way. But sometimes, these sudden challenges get to you and you just feel like giving up.
I like structure. I am a planner by nature and I like things being done in a certain manner. Maybe that’s why life loves to wreck my plans. And yet I don’t learn and start planning again. But as an overthinker, planning is in my blood. What an overthinker will not tell you is that we plan because we want to know the outcome, or let’s say we want to know the roadmap of how we will reach that outcome.
But you and I both know that nor can we see or predict outcomes. You have to let time do its job in the background while you live your life in the best way you can.
Not knowing outcomes is scary. It gives you sleepless nights especially if you want something so bad because you have given your blood, sweat and tears to ensure it happens. However, we feel that we must get an outcome that we deserve. But sorry my friend, life always has other plans.
You know, it’s fine if outcomes turn out differently, but can we please get a heads up? Like would it kill life to tell us if we have a week of crying to do, to ensure we gain back our sanity?
I have been holding a grudge against my past experiences a lot lately. You see your negative past experiences have a way of ruining your spirit of hope. Because you were shattered in the past, you somehow make up your mind that no matter what you do, you will end up getting hurt. So, you stop believing in the slightest ounce of positivity.
But that isn’t called living. That is called living in fear. And rightly so, you cannot blame anyone for living this way because it took everything that they had to get themselves together.
Fear robs you of discovering the magical aspects of life. If you live in fear, you will not love because you are afraid of your heart getting broken. But if you live in this fear, how will you ever experience that soul touching joy of falling in love? How will you experience what it means to be truly happy in a comforting friendship if you fear that people will eventually leave? Fear robs you of the good things.
So, the question is, do you let go of fear even though pain is just around the corner?
I asked myself this question a lot lately and I took a good look at all my past happy moments. They happened because I refused to look at what lies ahead. For instance, even though many people left my life, what I truly cherish are the happy times. What I cherish were the experiences I said yes to without thinking that they may not be with me years from now. If I kept myself locked in the four walls of my home, I would never discover what it means to live and what I need to learn to become the best version of me.
Therefore, let outcomes wreck you, that’s their job. When we are washed with pain, it is a sign that we are becoming better. We have no control over how things will turn out, but we do have control over the things we want to experience.
Let go and experience things that fuel you. You will discover something about yourself that you wouldn’t otherwise. If in time it brings you pain, do know it was totally worth it. Because life will never allow you to go through things that are not meant for you even if it brings pain. Everything is happening in the manner it is because you have to go through life’s ever confusing, ever surprising and ever hurtful experiences. As that’s the only way to know what’s the next chapter of your life and the purpose of your existence.
Thanks so much for your time!
