Do Dreams Come True Only with Hard Work or Is Timing Also Key?

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“If you’ve tried everything possible to get an outcome, and it just hasn’t worked out as planned, stop trying so hard. Relax. Maybe the timing’s not right. Maybe it wasn’t in your best interests. Maybe while one door seems to be closing, another is opening.”

— Robin S. Sharma

Work hard — isn’t that what we are told often. Of course, there is no quick fix to get to where we want in life, and the only way to get there is by working cleverly and on your feet.

But lately, life has been puzzling me with the lessons it teaches me every day.

I thought that if I gave my everything, one day, the sun would shine on me. Finally, I will realize why it took so much effort to see a tiny bud spring from its roots. But it turns out it’s never that straightforward when it comes to getting what you desire.

Sushmita Sen — the first Indian woman to win the Miss Universe title, was once asked at an interview if she deserved to win. To that, she replied –

“Oh, most definitely. Without a thought there,” she said.

“I do believe in two things. One is, that night, I was my best and that is why I deserved to win. Not because I was better than someone else. It was only because I was my best,”

“The other is that I was sort of luckier than everyone else that night. My shooting star went right over my head. I think that is important at times. When you are competing for anything, it is not just your hard work, because there are 20–30 girls who put in equal or more amounts of hard work. It is also that dash of luck, which I think I had that night,”

That Magic Stroke of Luck

That got me thinking, is it only hard work that brings us to where we want to be, or is it that magic stroke of luck or what the universe likes to call ‘timing’ that also holds the key to the door of our dreams?

Lately, I have been trying so hard to figure out certain things in my life. And very often I am told that I mustn’t go looking for it. When the timing is right, it will happen.

Sometimes the wait for manifesting our desires is frustrating. We put in our everything — research, effort, networking, calling, and yet we only face dead ends. But then, one day, something takes off and out of the blue, what we genuinely want appears, and most of the time, it’s way better than what we imagined it would be.

When It’s Time to Let Go

When I look back at my failures and broken promises, I think that everything from that point on would be pointless. You see, when you set a goal or dream and work day and night in the hope that one day you will see the light at the end of the tunnel, this faith keeps your engine running. But the moment that hope shatters, your life’s purpose disappears, and you feel numb.

And then, with time, you let go of everything. Why? Because what’s the worst that could happen because you lost everything anyway.

But then, as months go by, you start chasing something new. Something that you never thought you were any good at. Something you never imagined you enjoyed doing.

And then this new thing excites you, and most importantly, you feel effortless while you toil. You wonder why this didn’t appear to you before. But then we tell ourselves that thank goodness my life turned out the way it did as then this new talent in me would have never emerged.

It All Happens When It’s Supposed to

Through all of this, I wonder, is timing also key?

Is there a perfect time for everything?

Will things only appear when they are supposed to? And how do we know when that time will arrive?

As always, we will never know, and to be honest, I have accepted that we aren’t supposed to know. I guess if we knew, it will take all the fun out of everything.

So here is what I have concluded from my recent life events. I cannot be forcing anything to happen. I can think about it, work towards it but cannot EXPECT it to happen. Because everything will happen when it’s supposed to. Like the famous quote in the Bhagavad Gita –

“Whatever is happening, is happening for the good. Whatever will happen, will also happen for the good.”

And thus, my only job is to wait. Wait with an optimistic heart that the very thing I am searching for will appear when I least expect it. But for now, all I can do is plant my seed of thought, water it with hope and wait for the roots to appear when the sun of life decides to shine.

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